So Jay has peeled himself off the ceiling, admitted he was overreacted but still seems to think it's a big deal.

I mean yeah, it was rude and tactless but it is hardly a big issue in the grand scheme of things.

And he was SO ANGRY.

Anger is so often the response of someone trying to control others while simultaneously failing to control themselves.

He now wants to come to the thing "if I'm okay with it". So I'm still in charge of some covert operation, and he still won't talk to his mate about it.

Frankly I don't really want to hang out with Jay right now. Obviously we live together and see each other all the time, but he carried on like a two-bob watch, like a CHILD, and now he still expects like I want him there, like it's not even a question, after listening to all that. Like I'm not a little peeved at listening to him rant about something inconsequential. He knows it was inconsequential but got angry over it anyway.

I haven't heard from Andrew. We may hang this Friday, or maybe Monday, or maybe another time entirely. I don't know. I was going to suggest to Jay that seeing as he decided to abstain from the pub in deference to mine and others' mental health, maybe Andrew could come to that instead and that way avoid the pointy end of the issue. But he's decided (for now) that he'll be on his best behaviour and come for a couple of drinks and to apologise to Scotty. But still doesn't want to see Andrew (does want to come to the marathon though - so just making a point?)

We'll see what happens when I get home tonight. I think I'll suggest the pub as an equitable group thing to do and the marathon is between him and Andrew to sort out between them.
I suggest if he wants in then he should just ask but I'm not overly impressed because if we all go it'll be tense and that's not my idea of fun.